Is It All Going To Be Worth It?
Finding value in letting go of expectations
By Brianna Wilcox
There is one word that petrifies many of us to the point of complacency—sacrifice. Fear drives us to ignore, hide, or run from what commitment, determination, and selflessness long to offer. We are so afraid of what we will lose that what we might potentially gain is but a fleeting thought. Unfortunately the “what ifs” in life take precedence over the joy of fulfilled dreams. A year ago, when Chris (pictured with me above) came to volunteer at the organization I worked for in Coleraine, Northern Ireland, you could not have found two more different people. He is a boy. I’m a girl. He is 16-years old, and I am 25. He was painfully shy and quiet. I never meet a stranger and honestly, have trouble shushing my mouth. He loves computers and I find them quite alien. I was in charge of all the technical crew, which is ironic because I am one of the least gadget-wise people I know. Chris wanted to get involved, so he came to speak to me. As I was talking to him, he stared at my feet the whole time! He mumbled his way through our conversation, and as he left, I realized that I would have my work cut out for me. Month after month, as we worked together, I challenged him to reach out, make friends, and invest in a discipleship group.
By the end of this past August, Chris was the only person in Northern Ireland who remembered my birthday. He presented me with a card (which I treasure) and we spent half an hour reminiscing about the past year. We laughed as he recalled how I sat beside him until he was completely finished filling in a form to join a discipleship group. He quickly turned the conversation to a serious note and quietly said, “By the way, I never thanked you for that. Being a part of that group and learning more about the Lord was so new and exciting for me. Everyone says that I’m a different person. I don’t get it, but they say I have changed. I am signing up for the mentorship program this September. I’ve never had a Christian guy to talk about the Lord with. None of my friends are Christians. Thank you.”Halfway through this year of service, I really questioned if I was making a difference. I tried to find a conclusion to that question based on the evidence around me. It was difficult for me to leave the people I love back home, a great job, and a church in which I was growing, in order to volunteer with Exodus Ministries. I wanted proof that all my sacrifice would be worth it. A few days into my search, the Lord showed me that I was trying to switch roles with Him. My job was purely to love others well for His glory. It was up to Him as to the effect that might have. It was selfishness that drove me to want to see the rewards of my labor. I told him that I would be faithful in my job and let Him carry on in His (as if He needed my permission)! How freeing that was.
Hearing how Chris had grown was by far the greatest birthday gift I have ever received. It was unnecessary, but beautiful to see the benefits of living a sacrificial life.


















